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Relationship Red Flags with guest Stacey Alvarez de la Campa | TIS Ep. 62

Episode Summary

Have you ever wished that people came with a warning label? A caution sign? Something to help you avoid impending heartbreak? Or have you ever been in a relationship that you wish had never happened? Whew chile!!! If you’ve ever had these thoughts, you NEED to tune in. In this special episode marking Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Sharon, Lisa, and their guest Stacey Alvarez de la Campa share their experiences, situationships, and red flags that people should look out for on the road to romance.

TW: Emotional and physical abuse are discussed.

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5 Big Takeaways

  1. On red flags: “There are red flags–in hindsight. But you don’t pay enough attention to them when they’re actually happening to you.” – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  2. On owning your choices: “You don’t ever ‘find yourself’ somewhere. You put yourself in certain situations…There is ownership, and within the ownership comes the power to break out of whatever dynamic you’re in. – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  3. On “the dynamic”: “You gaslight yourself.” – Sharon Hurley Hall
  4. On “the mask”:  “You don’t know someone until you leave them.” – Lisa Hurley
  5. On leaving: “Jump, and build your wings on the way down.”  – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa

10 Juicy Quotes

  1. “What happened with me, and this often happens with people who are in abusive relationships, is you actually don’t see it as abusive at all–at the beginning.” – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  2. “Abuse is on many levels. It’s never just physical abuse.” – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  3.  “There was such a level of abusiveness, in terms of the physical, and in terms of the verbal and emotional, that I thought: This is it. You’re going to die.” – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  4. Don’t be so afraid to leave that you forget about what could happen if you stay.” – Stacey Alvarez de la Campa
  5. “A lot of times (abusers) see you coming…They pick you, and they show you the persona that is most designed to appeal to you.” – Sharon Hurley Hall
  6. “He started trying to dismantle me piece by piece.” – Sharon Hurley Hall
  7. “Listen to your subconscious and trust your gut. There are always signs.” – Sharon Hurley Hall
  8. “You’re always on eggshells…Once you get into that kind of dynamic, you’re in a constant state of trying to preemptively avoid conflict.” – Lisa Hurley
  9. “I want to de-stigmatize the shame.” – Lisa Hurley
  10.  “Actions speak louder than words. When people show you who they are, believe them.” – Lisa Hurley

By the Numbers

  • 00:30: Sharon introduces Stacey
  • 01:06: Sharon introduces the topic – relationship red flags
  • 02:26: Stacey shares her story
  • 07:17: Lisa shares her story

Resources

Welcome to the Equaliversity with guest Lea Jovy-Ford |TIS Ep. 61

Episode Summary

Big visions come in introverted packages, as our guest Lea Jovy-Ford shows. Join Sharon and Lisa as they find out how Lea “accidentally” became the leading voice in the Location Independent movement, has created several successful startups, and is now working on her mission for life: creating an equal world for all through Diverse Leaders Group and the Equaliversity.

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Previous Episode: Taking Back Our Power with guest Tara Furiani

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5 Big Takeaways

  1. On discovering introversion: “[Knowing I was an introvert] made it okay for me to be a certain way and for me to be able to identify and meet my own needs.” – Lea Jovy-Ford
  2. On setting boundaries: “Having strong boundaries with my children is another thing that has made a big difference. So I’m very clear to them that if I need time and space, that I need time and space, and I’ll explain to them why” – Lea Jovy-Ford
  3. On being people-first: “If people aren’t on good form, they can’t work and I wouldn’t ever want to or expect them to do. So it just makes logical sense to have an environment where the focus and the priority is on people first, you know, literally humans being as well as they can be.”  – Lea Jovy-Ford
  4. On making an impact: “When you see how much money is spent doing stuff that really doesn’t matter, it kind of has an impact. And I just thought, that’s not how I want to spend my life.  – Lea Jovy-Ford
  5. On building differently: “Because the whole purpose of Diverse Leaders Group, the purpose of the way that we want to build the company, as is as a prototype of how do we do this differently if we’re starting from scratch with a blank canvas, and we want to build equality all the way through?” – Lea Jovy-Ford

5 Juicy Quotes

  • “I do little tiny practices of self care every morning.” – Lea Jovy-Ford
  • “You stick your head above the parapet, and you know the danger is that it gets chopped off. That’s why most introverts don’t ever want to stick their head above the parapet. – Lea Jovy-Ford
  • “Diverse Leaders Group is about working towards equality for everybody and tackling all of the isms, all of the discrimination but doing it in a very different way and using technology to do it.” – Lea Jovy-Ford
  • “There’s a collective goal. And if the collective goal is equality, there’s a tension between how we achieve that as a collective, but what it comes down to  is individual responsibility and change at the individual level.” – Lea Jovy-Ford
  • “I always say I am textroverted – textroverted, but introverted.” – Lisa Hurley

By the Numbers

  • 01:26: Lea talks about the impact of discovering she was introverted
  • 04:09: Lea shares some of the ways she carves out space to honor her introversion in a family of 6
  • 06:11: How the location independent movement started “by accident”
  • 07:57: The challenge of being visible as an introvert
  • 13:17: Lea shares one of her core values
  • 15:35: Unlocking your potential and brain power
  • 18:17: Solving for equality with Diverse Leaders Group
  • 20:11: Why equality makes sense
  • 21:26: Lea turns the tables on Sharon, lol

Resources

Taking Back Our Power with guest Tara Furiani | TIS Ep. 60

Episode Summary:

Season 5 starts off with a powerful and moving episode featuring our friend Tara Furiani. Tara is a mom of seven, an author, and the host of the Not Your HR Lady podcast. In this episode we delve into the story behind her podcast’s unapologetic name, the importance of showing up authentically, the need to normalize mental health, and the beauty of owning your power.

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Are We Getting More Introverted As We Age? | TIS Ep. 59

Episode Summary:

Are we getting older, are we becoming more introverted, or just more comfortable with our introversion? This week on The Introvert Sisters Podcast we discuss how our introversion has changed over the years, the experience of being introverted children, and more! Want to find out how being an introvert helps and hinders us at home and work? Grab a cozy blanket and get ready for another episode of The Introvert Sisters Podcast. 

The Introvert Sisters Podcast is sponsored by All Things Equitable Inc.: We make it Easy to be Equitable.

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Say No to RTO | TIS Ep.58

Episode Summary:

On this week’s episode of the Introvert Sisters we talk about returning to the office or as it’s called, RTO! Is going into the office necessary? Dive into how office life harms us as Black, introverted, women, and why we love working from the comfort of home. Sorry workmates, we do NOT want to come to happy hour!

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The Introvert Sisters Share Their Podcasting Secrets | TIS Ep. 57

Episode Summary:

Have you ever considered making a podcast? Are you a newbie podcaster? This episode is for you! This week the Introvert Sisters spill some of their tips on podcasting as well as some of the difficult realities of running a podcast. Not just anyone can pick up a mic and make a podcast… At least not one this good!

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